The Jar of Life

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full.. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.The students laughed..

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.. The sand is everything else—the small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and mow the lawn.

Take care of the golf balls first—the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented. The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’ The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.

My Cancer Story – From Rajneeti To Dabangg

Movies have always been a dominating factor in my life since the very start. When I was born, Maine Pyar Kia was the biggest hit of the year and broke all the previous record set by its predecessors. Salman Khan was the nation’s new heartthrob. All the girls where drooling about him and all the guys wanted to look like him. Every body secretly wished they could use the Pigeon trick to woo the girl/boy of their dreams. ‘Will you be my Friend?’ was suddenly a cool innovative way to kick start your love life. I would say it was a very filmy time to take birth.
Though the biggest influence of movies, in my life, was most evident during my cancer days. Like you must have already realized, I am big movie buff. I make sure I am updated with all the movies coming up one or two years in advance right from their ‘Mauhurat’ days to the post production and release. I am that crazy about them. In fact, when I was probably 12-13, I promised one of my uncles that I would win the Filmfare Award for the best actor one day. He still has that piece of paper laminated with him, with my signature on it and often keeps pulling my leg for it. Though I couldn’t keep up the promise, but the love for movies in me has never seized to grow.
Two years back, when I was diagnosed with cancer, everything started happening around me at a lightening fast speed. I came to Gurgaon the next day itself, was hospitalized in Medanta Medicity, and the following day, I went through a major operation that lasted for more than 8 hours. When I finally opened my eyes after being unconscious for 5 long hours, I saw 40 stiches and 20 staples running like a scorpion’s tail all throughout my abdomen. I tried to lift up my body to sit, but I couldn’t. There was no pain though because of the anesthesia that was being subjected into me through this pipe that ran right inside my nostrils to god knows where. Rajneeti was supposed to release 6 days from this day.
It was my younger brother’s birthday, so we had planned to watch Rajneeti along with my cousins in Delhi, tickets of which we had pre booked a week back as the advance opening had started two weeks prior to the release.
But luck had other plans for us, my operation happened in between. The day I came back to my cousin’s place in Delhi, I.e. The third day from my operation, my brother and cousins told me, that none of them would go for the movie now. ( You know the kind of sacrifices your family members would do for you just to make you feel good ) Anyways, I didn’t take this news in good spirit. I announced right away that no matter what, I am going to watch the movie on the set date. The only glitch was, I couldn’t even sit by then.
I forced myself to get up for the first time, on the 4th day. Somehow I reached the door of my room but the pain was to its extreme now, and I couldn’t make it any further. The next day, I made up my mind, its now or never. I stood up and started walking. It took me about 15 minutes to stand straight but once I got my balance, I gained the confidence to walk. I walked for the next 15 minutes and went back to sleep.
Finally it was the D-Day. My mother went hysterical at the very thought of me going for the movie. After a long debate, I convinced my Dad, which I always do in a situation like this. He agreed to come along to ensure I am alright and in the next ten minutes the whole family was ready for the show, including my Mom.
We all went to PVR Saket and saw the movie. I sat for 2 and a half hours without any major trouble. That’s when I realized, if you want to do it, it can be done. And that’s about the same time Salman Khan had started his promotions for his most awaited movie ‘Dabangg’.
After the successful Rajneeti stunt, I was made sure I took proper rest from then on. The biopsy report arrived right next week, that diagnosed the tumor to be malignant with Non Hodgekin’s Lymphoma of the Burkitt type, or simply said I had cancer of the lymph nodes, which was spreading all through out my body, Chemotherapy being the only cure. I was back to the hospital where my first round of chemo started. My mom took a flat right in front of the hospital and the treatment started. My Doctor had given strict instructions that I should not be allowed to go out anywhere except for the flat and the hospital. That’s when the second announcement came from my side. I told my Dad that ‘ I know I am going to get out of this cancer thing soon and I will go to watch Dabangg on 10th September and if I am alright by then, cool enough otherwise I won’t continue with the treatment.’ My parents had no choice but to agree to it. After all they just wanted me stay happy.
From then on, it became a mission for me. I promised myself that no matter what comes, I will defeat this Cancer and get out of it to watch my favorite star in action on the big screen. Four moths later, after completing nine rounds of chemotherapy, four days before the release, My reports said I was 100% free from cancer. It was gone. I had done it.
On 10th September 2010, I came all over the way to my college in Noida, met my friends and we all went to see Dabangg in Waves Noida. Almost 30-40 friends of mine, had come up just to welcome me back. I couldn’t be any happier. It was the biggest victory of my life.
So what transpired from Super Hit Rajneeti and lasted till the All Time Blockbuster Dabangg, that’s my cancer story, as I love to call it.
Sometimes the biggest joy in life comes from the most basic things. And that’s the beauty of life. You don’t have to strive too hard to stay happy, you just need to be!

Sunburnt in Noida

My head is still spinning at the beats of Nick van de Wall, commonly known to known to the world by his stage name ‘Afrojack’, who performed live today at Sunburn Noida 2012, a Percept production brought to us by Nikhil Chinapa and his amazing group Submerge. Sunburn Noida, an Electronic Music & Dance Festival witnessed 2 stages, over 20 of the World’s greatest artists including Afrojack, Pearl, DJ Shaan and of course my favorite Nikhil Chinapa.
There was something spectacular about today’s show. Not because it was perhaps one of the best parties organized in India, Not because it was Sunburn after all but because it was organized right here in Noida of all the places. The lush green Unitech Golf Course and Country Club witnessed a foot fall of over 15000 people today. Even to this date, Noida is still ain’t a preferred party place here in Delhi-NCR, in spite of boasting of the only super club in the country, Quantum. The reason behind it is debatable though. A lot of people tell me it’s because of the crowd here. It ain’t safe for the women and what not. But I beg to differ on this. If that would have been the case, Sunburn couldn’t have pulled this off here. The one reason why people prefer partying in the capital instead is maybe since most of the people in Noida are new to it. It has just seen a revival. Hundreds of residential apartments are now coming up here and its turning into a second home for many of the Delhites and other places in India. With projects like Wave City Center coming up it sure has a bright future.
Today I could see one the craziest party lovers in the country right here in Noida dancing to the tunes of Afrojack. The energy in the crowd was so amazingly evident. They were totally loving it. The whole ambience was one to die for. If we go by this the party scene in Noida is only going to get better and better. Sunburn really was a killer show. It was one evening Noida and its people would remember for days to come.
P.S. Though I did get upset a bit for the age restriction of 25 for buying alcohol inside the event but more on that later. For now, Give Me Everything Tonight!

Some Backstage Action with Nikhil Chinapa

Some Backstage Action with Nikhil Chinapa

OMG OH MY GOD

God & God Men of India

God & God Men of India

I finally got to see OMG Oh My God today. I was always confident though that this movie was different and a topic like this was sure to raise eyeballs. And Indeed it does. I would like to congratulate Paresh Rawal & Akshay Kumar for coming up with this motion picture because they certainly have a winner in their hands.
This movie though made me remember the days of my childhood when I used to question myself on the existence of God. I have always been against the idol worshiping. God cant be an entity. I could never really get it how would praying in front of a stone help anyone. The concept of temples was never meant for this. It was a place where you could channel your thoughts to meditate. And meditation and its benefits have been well discussed and agreed upon even by science. But today its nothing but a business venture for the priests & God men. They are selling the religion in the name of God. In fact I would rather advise people to go to a casino instead and try their luck than going to a temple, where the return of your investments is sure to be 0.
There is no denying fact that a supernatural power exists that has been controlling this world from times unknown. For the sake of a balance in the society, the concept of religion was brought up and like Lord Krishna explains Kanji Bhai, if you try to shake that myth amongst the people, they would make you God instead. Like Mithun Chakrawarty ( mocking Sri Sri Ravi Shankar in a near to perfect act ) explains in the final moments of the movie, Indians are God fearing people not God Loving. The only reason why people worship God, go to temples do weird rituals like shaving off their heads, walking bare feet for miles and what not is mostly because they desire something. How do we justify that? I have often seen my friends developing their love for the Almighty right before their final examinations. Let’s consider it for a second doing this would work, don’t you agree that even God won’t like to help you much in this? After all where were you all these days when your life was smooth and you had nothing to complain about, nothing to loose? Did you never feel like thinking about Him then? Its all baseless really. We need to gauge this that God can’t help you clear your exams, or get you the love of your life or the best job. Only hard work and talent can give you success, every thing else is but a myth.
God in my view is our inner conscience. We should consider him as a source of inspiration that guides us on our life’s path. Someone who has made a certain plan for you and no matter how much you try to please Him with ‘laddoos and pedas’, He isn’t going to change that for you. We should consider Him as our friend who never leaves our side and is always there in our Good and bad times. A force within.

The Fountainhead

“But you see,” said Roark quietly, “I have, let’s say, sixty years to live. Most of that time will be spent working. I’ve chosen the work I want to do. If I find no joy in it, then I’m only condemning myself to sixty years of torture. And I can find the joy only if I do my work in the best way possible to me. But the best is a matter of standards—and I set my own standards. I inherit nothing. I stand at the end of no tradition. I may, perhaps, stand at the beginning of one.”
― Ayn Rand, The Fountainhead